Honestly, I wanted to name this post ‘The Mating Call’. But I already have been criticized for being too cheesy (after mentioning Rahasiya in the post on religion:)) and so checked myself. For the past ten days I have been holding back this ever growing urge, to type away yet another post, pouring all the imperfections of my thought process into words, as I was supposed to be busy doing something else.
LOVE: What are the pictures that come to your mind when you hear the word? Are they images of couples making out in public providing free show to anyone passing by (You can see a lot of it in Bangalore and Kolkata(What else use do you think people put the gardens surrounding the Victoria memorial to?))? Or are they of those cute teens eyeing the other fondly, too scared to even speak to the other, whose eyes reflect their awe and admiration for the other? Or is it of those middle aged couples who walk every morning in the neibourhood park, the wife probably thinking how bad the husband’s snoring has become and the husband probably comparing his wife’s dull, sagging face to that of his gorgeous new colleague? Or for those of you who were fortunate to be blessed with a touch of love’s magic maybe you think of that one special person, and for those unlucky ones who loved and yet couldn’t end up living with that special one, maybe you gulp to swallow that constriction in throat and to the unluckiest of all who loved the wrong person and got hurt, yet who couldn’t forget or stop loving the one person, maybe you fight back the tears of disappointment and pain. And for those know-it-all smartasses who feel love is for the meek and immature([sounds like you Arjun! Especially the 'ass' part] ), for whom it is the epitome of human fallacy, the one mistake that should never be committed, the word evokes a logh sigh of pity for the ordinary mortals who fall into such ‘emotional traps’. And yes, that is the topic I’ve take n up for today’s post (I’ll anyways digress from it. I am not capable of focussing on a topic for more than thirty seconds:)).
I have always answered the question “What is love?” that appeared in a couple of ‘personality quizzes’ i took in facebook with ‘Love without condoms results in babies’. I thought the answer was cheeky and it’s in my personality to blaspheme. (But love without condoms does cause babies: Proof: Look at the abundant population all around U and anyways even condoms have a 3 % failure rate right?!){Hey Arjun!!! You have openly talked about sex! Abhacharam! You’ll be thought of as a pervert(quite rightly so) from now! Nee ivlo kettavana!!!}
So apart from the obvious physical aspect(some people feel it’s offensive to call it lust) that attracts people of opposite sex(Not necessarily. Come on! They’ve right to marry in many countries now. Why condemn them?) to each other, what is it that binds a guy to a girl(ignoring the other same-same cases for convenience)? Is it an emotional bonding created out of mutual fear of loneliness or the eternal fear about future and the possibility of sharing it with someone, or is it a mere excitement of realising that someone enjoys your company and finds you special (for some unknown reason)? Or is it the inertia of not wanting to change a habit and merely being with the same person though you one no longer feels anything special for the other? Or is it true that the male and the female hearts(and minds) were made to complete the other just like their bodies are? Or is it after nothing more than the same urge that the street dog feels as it fights with the other males in the locality to get the one odd female dog that had strayed into the area? Or is it really a stroke of magic, the touch of God’s magic wand?
All these questions as all other questions are always subjective and I am not going to make any expert comments on any of them as obviously I am no expert in this.
[How unlike you to not make an 'expert' comment!]
Some questions aren’t meant to be answered by reasoning and logic and require a life time of living and experiencing things to understand the meaning of, leave alone attempting to answer.
But instead I want to just quote a few lines from few songs that come to my mind when I ponder about these questions and I will spare you any long commentary and end the post with these lines from my favourite songs:)
“Unnai thozhi enbatha, uyiril paathi enbatha…
Ithai Kaadhal enbatha en thedal enbatha….
Oru megam polavey manam mithanthu poguthey..
mazhai nindra pothilum mara kilaigal thooruthey…” /*Movie:Kadhal Kondein*/
“Un kannil Neer Vazhinthaal en nenjil udhiram kottuthadi…
En kannil paavai andro kannamma en uyir nindra andro..
Kaala sumathingi polay un maarbil enai thaangi …
Veezhum kanneer thudaipai athil en mibbal thaniyumadi..
Paerukku pillai undu .. Paesum paechukku sontham undu…
En thevaiyai yaar arivaar… Unnai pol theivam ondre ariyum…”/*Movie: Vietnam Veedu Lyricist:Kannadasan*/
“Neerttum nerathil en annai aaginrai…Vaalattum nerathil en pillai aagindrai…
Naanaga thottalo mullagi pogindrai… Neeyaga thottalo poovaga aagindrai…
En thannir en kanneer yellamay nee anbe…
En inbam en thunbam ellamay nee anbe…
En Vaazhvum en saavum un kannin asaivilay…” /*Movie: Alaipayuthey*/
“Tere naam se jee loon
Tere naam se marr jaaun
Tere naam se jee loon
Tere naam se marr jaaun
Teri jaan ke sadke mein kuchh aaisa kar jaaun
Tune kya kar dala marr gayi main mitt gayi main
Ho ji ha ji ho gayi main
Teri deewani deewani
Teri deewani deewani” /*Album:Kailasa Singer:Kailash Kher (What a voice!!!)*/“It’s amazing
How you can speak
Right to my heart
Without saying a word,
You can light up the dark
Try as I may
I could never explain
What I hear when
You don’t say a thing
The smile on your face
Lets me know
That you need me
There’s a truth
In your eyes
Saying you’ll never leave me
The touch of your hand says
You’ll catch me
Whenever I fall
You say it best
When you say
Nothing at all.”/*Song: When you say nothing at all Singer:Ronan Keating*/
the post is deep … agreed … and i dont have the energy to climb down it … one doubt : why this post suddenly?
IMHO, love between a man and woman is highly overrated, probably because of the dominant physical aspect, and maybe because of the societal rules and regulations around it. The underlying feeling of love, is not very different from what someone experiences with a mother, father, a dear friend, a dying sparrow or anything else, the feelings, emotions are pretty much the same, it just manifests itself in many different intensities, different actions, different forms with different beings in different situations (I think that would be just about enough different’s for a sentence).
My two cents.